What Happened To Kissing Like We Were Dating?

Rekindling the spark in a marriage may seem impossible. It's hard to tell your partner that the romance has left the marriage and that you feel as if there's no more passion.

It's common for couples to fall into a routine, become focused on work, and forget about the romance that keeps their relationship strong and fulfilling. A part of having a satisfied marriage is having a satisfying physical relationship.

1. Try going out on dates. Ask your spouse on a date. Make it a night you both are free and should have some time away from your responsibilities, not "can" be away. Whether it's to a movie, a nice dinner, a backyard date, or something you both have never tried, find something that will be reminiscent of what you did together when you were dating.
2. Ban sex. This may seem to do the opposite of what you want it to, but by making something forbidding, the allure of it becomes stronger. By making a rule that the clothes have to stay on, you're more likely to break it.
3. Express your most intimate and scary desires. Part of rekindling the spark is getting to know one another again. If you don't know what turns your partner on, what their deepest, darkest bedroom desires are, you won't be able to fulfill them and create a stronger intimacy.
4. Spend mornings together. This does not mean to sit at the kitchen table on your laptops or reading the newspaper and watching TV together. This means that if you usually run, suggest a morning jog together. You can also share coffee and talk about what you have to do today, what's going on at work, or even better, what you plan to do when you get home (in the bedroom that is).
5. Make sex a game or competition. There are lots of games you can play that lead to a night under the covers. You can try to find new "hot spots" or try to find the most outrageous toys to use on each other. Whoever's toy brings the most pleasure wins.

Marriage is a lifelong commitment, so why would intimacy stop once you're married? Try to sneak in kisses, squeezes, touches, that hint at a lot more fun later that night. Once your partner gets the message, they'll be sure to be onboard.